[b0ttler0cket]

As a side note (because your way of thinking is very interesting), here's a small thought exercise. I would love to know what you would do in this situation. (This might further convince you that the way you think fails some tests). I think taking the time to really understand this train of thinking is important, as it will dictate many of your decisions in the future. :)

ActionA hurts 1 person. B,2 C,3 D,4

Which one do you chose? A or no choice? To compound the problem.

ActionA hurts 1 person you really like. B,2 ppl you kinda like; C,3 ppl you are ambivalent towards; D,4 ppl you utterly dislike (each emotion containing logical reasons, e.g. A is your girlfriend, D is a cruel warlord.)

Now your decision might change, might it not? This is how I demonstrate to you why uncertainty destroys any chance you have of effectively making decisions.

So in all, I believe your way of thinking fails at 3 levels.

1. You believe your actions always hurt someone, though not realizing that because you're a capable and well-meaning person, your inaction may hurt many many more people.

2. You believe firmly (so firmly that you don't commit to anything you want to do in life) that you are dealing with information when you are in fact dealing only in pure, non-founded speculation. You have NO basis to believe you are hurting people. You speculate. I would say you have information that you are hurting people when you can tell me the names of who you're hurting. This is a bad illusion to live under. It gives you the feeling that your making an active decision to do something when all you're doing is absolutely nothing except believing you've made an active decision. You set yourself a devious little trap.

3. You do not have enough information to use the system you are using. Even if you had enough information (as demonstrated above) you would need additional rules and ways to rank the impact of your actions and who they impact, which you currently completely lack.

I know this is going to help you. Let it. If I was in your situation and someone told me this, it would've helped me. :)

[jhjhjhjhj]

Thanks b0ttler0cket. Your comments definitely helped me. Though I am not 100% convinced. I will give more thoughts to your comments.

[soneca]

Great comment by b0ttler0cket! He is completely right.

Sharing my point of view, I am also have no competitive spirit at all (and I don't want to grow any also). My high school used to divide students in classes according to our grades. I consciously chose no to study to the finals in order to stay on the same class of my friends. I am a good soccer player, but, unsurprisingly, I am always at the loser side of a game - sport is a field where competitive matters, not entrepreneurship.

As a founder myself, not being competitive certainly has implications, but that doesn't give any reason to create a "fear paralysis". Sure, we both doesn't have the right fit to create a copycat business. Create a local Groupon where we would have to ferociously compete for markets. But what about innovation? Blue ocean strategy? Non-profit startups? Social business? Research? I may even say that creating a new social networking site don't justify your fears (or are you actually afraid of being so successfull that you will make all Facebook employees fired??).

See how many possibilities? I can't not say something, and I am only saying this because I can completely relate to your spirit and I really have no intention to offend here. But, to me, sounds one of two options: or you are extremely short-sighted about what can you achieve or you are just rationalizing all of this in order to justify your inaction, your fear of getting out of your comfort zone.

On a final note, a misconception: Capitalism is not a zero sum game. Not at all. Even Karl Marx, the biggest, most important, most inteligent, most profound, most ferocious critic of capitalism says that capitalism imply in poverty, that for some to get rich, some have to be poor. No, the capitalism itself doesn't demand this. The way we practice capitalism today has this consequence, but this is changing. Less poverty in the world is better for rich people and rich countries. China growth allowed a better life for both USA wealthy people and chinese poorest - there is no way a continual world growth is possible without including Africa in world's economy. It is perfectly possible to create a business where you create wealth for every stakeholders and doesn't destroy wealth with some externality. *Marx's criticism is more in the line that capitalism leads to individualism, fetishism, human degradation(not through poverty), reification (thingification of social relations).