[jacquesm]

> Did you consider kicking his ass? Seriously.

Seriously, you're an idiot. If you escalate to violence the only thing you will achieve is that on top of being sued for whatever he's being sued for right now he's going to:

(1) hand a very large trump card or a free victory to the plaintiff in the other suit

(2) quite possibly end up with a record to boot

[vinceguidry]

It is not completely idiotic to resort to violence, it can be completely effective in many situations, but it is unwise if you aren't comfortable with it. You might end up with your own ass kicked and facing criminal charges if you don't succeed.

Intimidation would work much better here.

You have to create a convincing impression that you are willing to go way farther than he is. You have to look them in the eyes and let them know you mean business. The threat doesn't even have to be real, just make vague allusions to bad shit that's going to happen to them if they don't back off.

You have to dig deep down into that primal part of your brain and draw out dark feelings, then harness and direct them directly at your adversary. Get in his face. It's best to practice in a mirror. Helps if you've had any performing experience or even taken classes, they teach you how to be convincing. If it feels stupid, it will come off stupid, keep practicing until you can fool yourself. Think about various ways he'll respond and prepare for them.

[wtvanhest]

Seriously, you're an idiot. If you escalate to violence the only thing you will achieve is that on top of being sued for whatever he's being sued for right now he's going to:

First, maybe he is an idiot, maybe he isn't, but I definitely don't think it is fair for his comment to be discounted as highly as it is, as quickly.

(1) hand a very large trump card or a free victory to the plaintiff in the other suit

I am no lawyer, but I doubt highly that a physical altercation will change the facts of the original lawsuit, so your assumption here seems false.

(2) quite possibly end up with a record to boot,

quite possible, but that record will stand as a message to future hostile parties. I'm not saying that's always good, it may prevent him from getting a job somewhere, etc., or it may not.

Violence is rarely the answer, but to be so flippant and assume it never is and say "you're an idiot" is really misunderstanding the power dynamic.

In America, the punishment for violence is high relative to the value in almost all cases but there are definitely situations where being a violent aggressor will payoff. I'm not advocating it here, in this case, or any other, but taking that option off the table completely is immature and shows a lack of understanding of how the real world can work.

To support my claim, I'll give an example of where violence was used effectively against me.

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1) I had a car repainted when in high school (it has a lot of random damage and I needed to prevent it from rusting.)

2) I negotiated with an independent body shop

3) I had it repainted

4) They didn't do as good of a job as they described.

5) I came back to the body shop, my car was not there, one of the workers had taken it out on a beer run. He came back with the car and he was still drunk.

6) I confronted him in a professional but frustrated manor.

7) His coworker threatened me.

8) I realized I wasn't going to fight this guy without a weapon and decided to back down and just drop it.

The threat of violence worked for him and his coworker. Without it, they had zero negotiating room and the driver would have likely been fired. Could I have gone to the police? Maybe, but they likely wouldn't have done anything.

[ry0ohki]

It's a trump card because there would then be a second case against the defendant. He could say "Settle my first lawsuit and I'll drop assault charges on you", if you don't you'll be broke AND in prison.

[darkarmani]

> The threat of violence worked for him and his coworker. Without it, they had zero negotiating room and the driver would have likely been fired. Could I have gone to the police? Maybe, but they likely wouldn't have done anything.

They police would have done something if they beat you up.

[eksith]

Or nothing. Without more evidence, it's still he said she said and since it's their garage, they can do whatever they can to clean up before the cops get there. And, let's face it, since cops are there to keep the peace, they will do it in the most convenient way possible... and that may include doing nothing. At least, that's how they work in New York.

To be perfectly honest, is it really worth a black eye and a few broken ribs at best, and internal injuries at worst? Sure, you could sue them, but why risk injury (even permanent injury) when just walking away is also an option. It's not surrender, cause he will still own the car (even with its crappy paint job), it's a strategic withdrawal when the potential loss in a confrontation is unacceptable. Even Sun Tzu would agree.

He may not have liked it one bit, but he did the smart thing. A bruised ego heals a lot faster than a missing eye.

Meanwhile, he can name and shame the garage with every new person he meets without directly confronting them and show the car as evidence of the crappy job. A missile is a safer option than bayonet.

[wtvanhest]

As much as I enjoy winning a moral victory from a hospital bed, I think I'll pass.

Fighting someone with the intention of calling the police afterwards doesn't make sense to me.

[darkarmani]

Where did i ever say you should have fought them?

[justin66]

> They police would have done something if they beat you up.

They'd have done something even if they hadn't beat him up. Drunk driving? Assault?

[analog]

Walk away, saying "that's fine, you're right". Then call the police on the drunk driver and come back. Follow up with a civil case for damages, you have the poor job as evidence.

[zura]

Judging from your panic reaction, you're either a narrow-minded person (an idiot, using your dictionary) or a person who's ass was recently kicked. Most likely you're both.

The fact that you didn't even apologize makes you an asshole as well.

In the future, please be polite and grateful to any advice you're given.

[exim]

Thanks for the kind words.

This was actually a first reaction for such an unfair situation one can fall no matter in how "civilized" or "developed" country he/she lives.

So after the first angriness goes away, one starts thinking rationally...

[meerita]

This.

Never recur to violence. Never.

[abcd_f]

Please don't use "This." one-liner. It's corny.

[BHSPitMonkey]

Precisely.