[juridatenshi]

The shit last week absolutely scared some people. Some of us are steeled to get even louder because of it, but others were seriously considering being less visible or even dropping out. I'm not sure what the long-term effects will look like, only time will tell, but it absolutely negatively affected people in the tech industry.

As for Steve (and the others involved in the incident you mentioned), what they did was shitty. Behavior like that can have serious negative consequences as well. I was pretty pissed when that happened, and I really hope it's a mistake they won't make again (and if they do, they'll be getting an earful). However as far as I recall, the offending parties did apologize when called out.

We all fuck up, myself included. Apologies don't make everything better, but it's a world above people making death threats. I value allies who occasionally fuck up that I can call out on their shit over people who are regularly assholes and have no introspection when I call them on it. I've known both. The former has generally provided me with a support system. The latter has just tried to tear me down (see examples in my post).

Absolutely agreed on helping more than women.When I speak about personal experiences, they're mostly about women because that's my lived experience, but I am very much for helping a variety of people. Those who know me recognize me by my catchphrase, "MY TECHNOLOGY WILL BE INTERSECTIONAL OR IT WILL BE BULLSHIT!"

[tiredofcareer]

> but others were seriously considering being less visible or even dropping out.

I was considering that before this thing, and am only considering it more after, for what it's worth.

This thread discusses such feelings: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=5411308