[Glyptodon]

I think you're actually pretty close to hitting the nail on the head. Of course I'm not even female and I find some of the things you're talking about tiresome... (Perhaps the issue is not exactly sexism, but infantilism?)

Even more draining is the 'treat the customers like sheep' sneering Wall street trader attitude that some of my coworkers seem to have, and which seems to be subtly propagated via attitudes about using analytics and machine learning. We can herd our customers through subtle cues established through artificial intelligence and machine learning techniques. Nearly every day there's discussion about manipulating process and appearance and verbiage to get a 1 or 3 or 2.5% higher conversion ratio, or cultivating a community via social media through keeping up appearances - schedule your tweets, re-tweet funny things, know your audience, etc. Analytic your customers 'till the cows come home to understand which navigation items to put where and see 'how' your customers user the 'product.' Create your own market. Etc. But it's all so artificial. I can't remember the last time anybody seriously posted anything looking at fulfilling an actual meaningful need, or their customers as actual people.

Even for employees I think it's very disconcerting to have a public pitch about how you care about customers and are part of a community, then behind closed doors stereotype them like they're some sort of bovine herd who can't tell alfalfa from the compost bin and joke about it. (Maybe this isn't normal? But it feels normal in my experience. To a certain extent I can't even help but participate. What can you do but joke about people still using IE 6 or 7 or who think the Internet's 'Turned Off' or whatever the random point of tech ignorance is for the day? When so much of the world relies and depends on the Internet without understanding it or having a clue or realizing how they're tracked or what legal protections they don't have for their Facebook posts and more, it's really hard to have respect even if you can pay it lip service.)

Quite frankly, I think things might be so bad that plenty of men find things off-putting. But it does fit in pretty well with a narrative of slavery/conquest versus nurture.

(If you're going to downvote maybe say why you think differently? I hate it when it's left as a mystery.)