[justlearning]

Christian, I am going to be blunt with you. All of us giving advise is not going to help you. You are going to feel good about for a day or two - you asked for advice and that's the first step to solve problems. But you won't be taking any action. You are there thinking I am trying to solve my problems, but you aren't. (been there, done that)

The only way you can change is to change yourself - discipline yourself. Change your routine. Change your diet.

1) Why don't you have more friends? 2) Why don't you have an idea about 'working'? Have you never worked before? Why? 3) Why think about a girl who judges you based on your current situation rather than the person you are?

I am not sure if I should apologize, but if I were beside you, I would ask you something similar to 'shake' your current thought process.

Fellow HNers: I am genuinely curious to know - what's the relation between living between parents and failure? Why are people living with their parents associated with failure? What if I work a decent job and earn well, but live with my parents?

In the 'east' - mostly asia, it's not looked down upon if you live with your parents. From what I hear from friends, it's similar in Russia and parts of eastern Europe too.

[ElongatedTowel]

Maybe I won't take action. But talking to my friends about what I can do and what he thinks of me taking a job as a courier is more than I did before. Even going out of the house several days in a row is something I usually don't do. Even if it doesn't work, it's the longest streak of clarity I've ever had.

> What if I work a decent job and earn well, but live with my parents?

Independence is a great trait. That's the only reason I could think of.

1. Fear of rejection. Hard to meet someone if you're home all day. 2. Yes, never did. Alway required social interaction. Some days I was too anxious to even leave the house. 3. Love me for who I am sounds great, but relationships require a certain base

[404error]

I don't understand the connection either. For some people it's a choice. I don't know if any here are Football(Soccer) fans but, one of the top midfielders in the world Xavi who place for Barcelona lives with his parents. Xavi has won everything there is to win in his line of work, Club Trophies, World Cup, Champions League... is he considered a failure?

[yen223]

Malaysian here. I would say 80% of my peers (25-30 year olds) still live with their parents. Although that's more a result of our grossly inflated property prices than anything else. It's not really looked down upon.

[Comkid]

I've heard from friends, that in India, that it is part of culture to live with your parents until you are married.