[ivanbernat]

I hope the author is reading this thread.

What struck me was this line: "Family time bores me because I could otherwise be doing amazing things".

I felt like this for a long time. I was in a long-term relationship with an amazing woman, yet I spent my free time working or thinking about all the "amazing" things I could have been working on. Up to the point where she left me.

Family time is the one thing you should never consider a bore or a chore.

[hobbes]

Thankfully, the last sentence of the article states: "Then I'm going to the beach with my partner to 'do nothing' for an evening."

Just to add, it's not mererly a lack of "doing" something, but valuing the "being" part of ourselves: Father, husband, partner, friend, etc - out of which the "doing" bit naturally flows. Due to my personality flaws, I too often "do nothing" when in presence of my wife, which can be just as destructive for the relationship as wishing I was doing something somewhere else.