[josh_nyc]

All I can offer here is a personal observation:

Many times in my life when I've asked people for advice in choosing between several options, I've found myself secretly hoping they'd guide me to a certain option... hmm...

When I was a teenager, I'd ask my dad for advice and find myself asking leading questions and almost arguing to get him to advise me to pick a certain option. He would get annoyed and end the conversation with "if you already know the answer, why are you asking me?"

As I got older and our conversations got calmer, he would often end with "well it sounds like you already know what you want to do."

I find that when asking for advice (or venting about a tough decision), this pattern persists.

Now I try to have that conversation with myself, knowing I should trust my intuition. It saves a lot of time and frustration! Then, when I ask for advice, I'm actually ready to listen to it.