[dyselon]

Just work with her to find time to do what you want. If you lay out some things that are important to you, ask her to give up some weeknights (or whatever it takes for you) with you in the code cave to help you get there, and are prepared to sacrifice the occasional inspired time when stuff that's super important to her comes up, you'll be fine. I mean, she's your wife. She wants to see you accomplish stuff that's important to you, right? Make her a partner in doing that. Like lots of stuff in marriage, its about communication and compromise. Congratulations on the marriage, by the way!