[Crake]

I actually relate rather strongly to your post...I've eventually come to the conclusion that there is absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to stay single. I feel that sometimes people put too much emphasis on sex and relationships as a mandatory part of a successful life.

Girlfriends take up a LOT of time. If you find someone who's a perfect match, then go for it. But scooping out valuable time in your life for a relationship that's merely ho-hum probably isn't worth it. For people who are very smart, like a good portion of the tech crowd, the relative stupidity of the general population eliminates a good portion of women, too, which certainly exacerbates the situation.

Mathematically speaking, I know the chances of me finding a long term significant other are very small. My last girlfriend was an electrical engineer, and she moved to the midwest from the east coast. It was great while it lasted, but she was literally the only attractive smart and technical person I've ever met in this area who was interested in people like me. Whenever I see my friends with their girlfriends, it always makes me feel a bit lonely. I know that logically speaking, it's not something I can or should have, since I don't think I'd make a very good significant other (for some difficult personal reasons). But it's still something that bothers me at night.

[itistoday2]

(disclaimer: not a shill) go on okc, i didz have success! (took a few months... be patient). also, if you really want it, be willing to look outside your area. mine was several states away but totally worth it!

[Crake]

Ah, that's where I found my EE girlfriend, actually. I don't think I'd have had even that without OKC.