[itistoday2]

> It’s not a question of whether each of these things will happen; it’s a question of when.

Don't like how she comes off as "super relationship expert full of wisdom" here. I don't care how many relationships she's had, or how old she is, not all relationships are created equal, and these things she calls "inevitabilities", while certainly common, are not inevitable. Being in a relationship with that mindset could just turn it into a self-fulling prophesy.

As just one easy example, you don't have to have children, so her comment about kids doesn't apply to any couple that decides not to have kids.

[richardjordan]

I think that's failing to see the wood for the trees. She's pointing out a basket of serious problems people in long term relationships face... problems that when you're 20 seem distant or even irrelevant but by the time you hit 40 you nod your head and if you haven't had the exact same problem it's a good analogy for one you did have, because long term relationships - ones that last decades not months - are very hard and take a lot of learning.

It's not super relationship expert full of wisdom. It's the stuff the old people in your family used to tell you round the fireplace when we all had multi-generational homes and wisdom was passed down from generation to generation. Something we've lost today. The difference is you can't get mad at your gran for telling you stuff you don't want to hear.

[itistoday2]

I'm not entirely disagreeing with you. If you look at what I said, I wasn't really taking issue with the overall theme of her message, I was taking issue with how she chose to express it and some of the specific assertions she made. Gran and this woman would be making the same mistake: assuming that their life experience is somehow representative of the life experience of someone else. Sure, it's nice to listen to others and learn from the lessons they learned, but don't go telling others that they will have the same experiences you had, as though they are inevitabilities. I'd get mad at gran if she had said that too.