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Seeing this sort of negative behavior, both in groups online and off and coding and not, affected me greatly, even when I wasn't the target. On one hand, it gave me pause to consider and critique my own work, enhancing the final product. On the other hand, it made me go into over-perfectionist overdrive and too scared to release stuff lest "everyone" hates it. This fear, however irrational, has gripped me for many years. Stories, scripts and projects being left in folders partially because I wasn't sure where to go with them, but I believe in part that I was too scared to see it through and be rejected (The McFly effect, if you will.) I'm only now just coming to terms with it and learning how to, excusing the french, not give a fuck what others think. If I'm happy with it, that's a great start.

It's like with improv comedy: Denying the other person doesn't go anywhere and typically ruins the whole scene. Working with the other person in a positive light,though, goes miles and miles.