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by pavel_lishin 2 days ago
It's a good jumping off point, but becoming friends requires time and work.

When we're young, we have nothing but time spent together. As adults, who spend an hour at the local park with some kids, those relationships require more effort to grow.

We have a few friends we've made through our kid, and it definitely takes more work to maintain - but it's been very worth it so far.

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As I age, my desire for friends for friends' sake diminishes. If someone doesn't offer something to my life that I value, I'll have a hard time putting energy into them.

It was so easy to make strong bonds as a kid, captive with other kids in a building most of the time. Now there is a cost:benefit I have to weigh a persons worth to me against.

> becoming friends requires time, work, and a mutual desire for friendship

FTFY ;-)

How dare you imply that people don't want to be my friend! I'M PLEASANT AND LIKEABLE PERSON, YOU JERK!