[lbrito]

>A reminder to buy the kids things they say they desperately want.

If I were to follow this, I'd be spending half my days driving to stores to buy the thing my kids happen to "desperately" want today :)

Also a reminder that you're not obliged to _buy_ everything. Its kind of amazing how ingrained this is into a large amount of peoples' heads. You can get a lot of things for free or secondhand. I got my kids' large trampoline for free.

[sublinear]

You could also... just... not get them anything unless they earned it according to rules that they agree with and believe in.

Of course that would require a lot more parenting than buying things.

[dnemmers]

I think the previous comment was more about second hand, and free options compare to running out to buy them new from a store; not if the parent should/shouldn't get them anything.

[sublinear]

I knew what I was commenting on. I see that HN continues to be salty about anything that doesn't support their entitled worldview.

The broader thread was commenting about the dangers of trampolines and I was simply suggesting how to sidestep an entire category of suffering.

If they insist on wanting a trampoline and actually do yard work for it or whatever, then the pain won't be wasted. It may not even be remembered as trauma, but as the moment they learned to think a little harder about what they want. This is really basic parenting.

I would elaborate on what I mean by "entitled" as applied to the adults on here pushing their own ideas/products/etc., but I think it's clear enough where my train of thought is going.

[lbrito]

That was somewhat my first point - kids, especially younger, want things all the time. Its fine to ignore most of it. Catering to every wish of a toddler is silly. Unfortunately it seems a lot of parents tend to do more of that than seems healthy.

[akoboldfrying]

> I see that HN continues to be salty about anything that doesn't support their entitled worldview

Read their comment again, and discover that the salt exists only in your imagination