[wallflower]

> Where have all the most appealing men gone? Married young, most of them—and sometimes to women whose most salient characteristic was not their beauty, or passion, or intellect, but their decisiveness.

I think this one quote from the article is important.

> What they understood is this: as your priorities change from romance to family, the so-called “deal breakers” change. Some guys aren’t worldly, but they’d make great dads.

2nd quote from linked article in original piece - an interesting Lori Gottlieb article entitled "Marry Him!" which I'm considering forwarding to a few of my 30-ish single and still serial-dating female friends (considering the negative repercussions).

http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200803/single-marry

[cturner]

Good read.

"What I long for in a marriage is that sense of having a partner in crime."

I smiled as I read this because that's my exact choice of words when describing what I'm interested in.

[Spyckie]

hmm is it romantic or pragmatic if you think of your spouse as a good friend/cofounder you can split work with and help each other out?

I'm beginning to see no point in love - only solid, mutually beneficial friendships.

[tdavis]

I think Alexander Smith put the "point of love" quite well: "Love is but the discovery of ourselves in others, and the delight in the recognition."

You can love a friend in that sense to a point, and that may be enough for many people. Obviously romantic love is an entirely different story: irrational and perhaps less efficient than a work partner, but the sort of thing that contrasts and enhances the purely logical.

[HeyLaughingBoy]

I'm beginning to see no point in love - only solid, mutually beneficial friendships

Love takes that and raises it to the googol'th power. I mentioned earlier in this thread that I am getting divorced. My wife and I sometimes talk about the times when we were head over heels crazy about each other, but what we have now and are trying to maintain is perfectly described as "a solid, mutually beneficial friendship."

The difference is beyond night and day!

[dmm]

Most of those people sound really self-absorbed.