[jorisw]

I do the Do Not Disturb + whitelist thing on my iPhone.

I also disable any and all notifications of apps other than direct messaging apps. No group message notifications.

[ryandrake]

I’ve been 24/7 do-not-disturb mode with all notifications disabled, for the past 10 years. It’s been wonderful for “intentionality” and agency over my time. I use my phone when I want to do something on it, not when the phone beeps and buzzes telling me to use it.

I don’t even whitelist anyone anymore. If it’s important they will leave a message and I’ll get back to them.

[aktau]

> If it’s important they will leave a message and I’ll get back to them.

I can't really do that. For some things (urgent and important), loved ones need to be able to reach me.

But yes, a lot of this advice would work.

[SoftTalker]

You have to remember that not that long ago it was simply impossible to reach most people who were not at home or at work. Because it was impossible, nobody felt slighted that you were unable to read their message or take their call immediately. And nobody felt any anxiety about leaving the house for a few hours to shop or go to a movie or a ball game and being unreachable. Loved ones managed and life went on.