[busterarm]

It's not anti-privacy to point out the obvious that privacy-advocacy is sometimes at odds with governments and the will of voters at large.

Privacy is being abused by criminals to victimize people at scale. Just because privacy is a moral good doesn't mean you are morally off the hook for enabling criminals.

Governments are so aware of this they're passing sweeping laws against it. This is your new reality -- you can't just bury your head in the sand. The whole point was saying that there could have been a middle ground that protected more of your rights than where you're at now if it weren't for the absolutism.

Turns out that being an absolutist isn't helpful.

[Scaled]

Age verification is not the will of the voters. It is the will of large political donors (specifically tech companies and religious censorship groups). It is certainly not the will of adult citizens who use adult websites, who have overwhelming shown in their usage patterns they will abandon any website that tries to do age verification.

Parental controls remains the right way to do age gating. It works today and has no privacy impacts.

[mapontosevenths]

Just for those who aren't aware, most of the recent push for these laws has been bankrolled by Meta. They wish to avoid legal responsibility for their attacks on democracy and human health by convincing governments that people don't need any right to anonymous speech, and thusly free speech, as much as Meta needs to not have to pay moderators.

[inigyou]

Nobody wants age verification (except Zuck), but most people want children kept away from social media, and nobody's suggested a better option. Why haven't we suggested a better option? Well it's because we called the whole thing authoritarianism and refused to get involved.

You know who didn't refuse to get involved? Larry Ellison, Peter Thiel, Mark Zuckerberg. They made suggestions to governments about how to solve this problem, and the best proposed solution was adopted and made the law.

[SoftTalker]

Parental control does not work today, it's too fragmented and too difficult.

[simoncion]

> Parental control does not work today, it's too fragmented and too difficult.

Then legally require it to be effective and easy-to-use-if-you-take-a-few-minutes-to-read-the-instructions.

See also [0].

[0] <https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=48911863>

[inigyou]

This is literally what California did with the Digital Age Assurance Act, AB1043.

[simoncion]

> This is literally what California did with the Digital Age Assurance Act, AB1043.

There's apparently information that you didn't read contained in the footnote of the comment you replied to.

Based on this layman's reading of the law, [0] California did literally the opposite. They require major OS vendors to require users to enter their birthdate or indicate in some other way their current age, and then require programs and websites to act on that age information. This is entirely different from requiring major OS vendors to allow a "guardian account" to set fairly-fine-grained restrictions on one or more -er- "ward accounts", and then requiring programs and websites to refuse let the "ward account" do the things that those restrictions say that it isn't permitted to do.

"Restrict by age" neither accounts for precocious under-eighteens, nor does it account for vulnerable elderly or otherwise brain/developmentally-damaged adults who need protected. And because "restrict by age" cares very much about your age, and because it's not going to work nearly as well as promised by those pushing it, it will inevitably require scans of both a photo ID and one's face and/or other biometrics.

A "you don't need to know anything about this account other than that these are the things it's not supposed to be able to do" system gives zero shits about the identity of a person, so there's no plausible path for it to gate access behind submission of any identifying documents to any third party.

[0] <https://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/billTextClient.xhtm...>

[inigyou]

It requires you to enter a birth date which is not required to be your birth date. In case of a conflict between the age verification birth date and any other birth date, only the age verification birth date may be used for age appropriateness checks.

[ETH_start]

So instead of instituting restrictions that will probably cost society hundreds of billions if not trillions of dollars in lost economic efficiency, publicly fund development of better parental control software, and publicly fund its adoption to make it the market standard.

[toomuchtodo]

Please provide citations regarding public support for age verification. Surveys show majority support, for dating sites, social media, adult content, and sports betting.

https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2026/07/01/majority-...

https://x.com/PTBwrites/status/2031529878021923118

https://yougov.com/en-us/daily-results/20250502-1e408-1

https://yougov.com/en-us/daily-results/20250502-1e408-2

> Parental controls remains the right way to do age gating. It works today and has no privacy impacts.

This opinion is not grounded in data and facts. If this was true, we would not be here. But we’re here because parental controls are insufficient, the vast majority of parents are just hanging in there getting their kids to adulthood.

More than 3 million college students are raising kids. Most won’t graduate - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=48709130 - June 2026

The real single-parent capital of America - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=42867716 - January 2025 ("The places with the most single parents tend to be, to put it bluntly, struggling. The strongest predictors of single parenthood are high poverty rates and high shares of the population receiving government assistance." [There are ~13.6M single parents in the U.S. raising over 21M children. This means single parents head roughly one in three households and approximately 34% of all U.S. children live in a single-parent family.])

Parents Under Pressure: The U.S. Surgeon General's Advisory on the Mental Health & Well-Being of Parents - https://www.hhs.gov/sites/default/files/parents-under-pressu... - 2024

> When stress is severe or prolonged, it can have a deleterious effect; 41% of parents say that most days they are so stressed they cannot function and 48% say that most days their stress is completely overwhelming compared to other adults (20% and 26%, respectively).

> Nearly 70% of parents say parenting is now more difficult than it was 20 years ago, with children’s use of technology and social media as the top two cited reasons.

> Recent data from 2021-2022 indicate that among parents, 23.9% (or 20.3 million) had any mental illness and 5.7% (or 4.8 million) of parents had a serious mental illness.

> Lastly, many other caregivers assume primary caregiving responsibility when parents cannot, thus acting as a critical safety net for children. In recent years, there has been a notable increase in such individuals taking on caregiving responsibilities for children, with approximately 2.4 million children being raised by grandparents, other relatives, or family friends, without their biological parent(s) in the household.

U.S. has world’s highest rate of children living in single-parent households - https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=37628812 - September 2023 (108 comments)

(fertility rates continue to collapse though, so hopefully this problem continues to decline over time, only time will tell; 40% of annual pregnancies in the US and internationally are unintended, per the Guttmacher Institute and the UN, respectively)

Charted: How American Households Have Changed Over Time (1960-2023) - https://www.visualcapitalist.com/how-american-households-hav... ("A record 58.4% of American households now consist of married or single adults without children. Only 25.3% of American households contain children.")

[failuser]

The laws they pass do nothing to stop the criminals. Do you think an “age verification” law can stop any criminals?

[busterarm]

The laws not stopping the criminals isn't the point. People are calling on their governments to do something and thus governments are going to do what they are going to do.

It's a mix of what they can do and what they're likely to do. They just have to be able to go back to voters and say they're doing something.

If you think that the fact that they did the wrong thing is an argument for not doing anything, you clearly are blind to politics & history.

And age verification being the wrong solution to the "privacy problem" doesn't remove privacy from lawmakers' crosshairs.

[WarmWash]

People are calling on governments or Meta is calling on governments to preemptively deflect punishment onto everyone else for their own misdeeds?

[failuser]

Exactly. Voice of the people if very faint, sound of lobby banknotes makes lawmakers listen.

[casey2]

People are also calling on parents, governments and tech companies to respect children's privacy. [1]

None of these groups will because they profit too much from disrespecting their privacy. The average child would be far safer if they used the Dark Web. I'm not sure why the "richest country on earth" is engaging in zero-sum behavior, but those are the kinds of contradictions such behavior creates.

[1] https://www.pewresearch.org/short-reads/2023/10/18/key-findi...

[failuser]

Governments can make effective laws, you know. There are tools that can solve this. Parental controls, separation of peer-to-peer communications from algorithmic feeds. The lawmakers are old, tech-illiterate people. You can tell them that a private Minecraft server is illegal and they will believe it.

[inigyou]

It's a shame that non-evil tech-literate people refused to talk to lawmakers about any of this.

[Dylan16807]

> Privacy is being abused by criminals to victimize people at scale.

Almost all victimization is being done without end to end encryption. This is not a problem caused by privacy.

[inigyou]

Yep. For example on Instagram DMs, which is why Instagram abolished E2EE, and we all went into an uproar.

Also on Discord and Roblox, they are apparently the biggest platforms for this, but they're not E2EE anyway, they're just hiding it because their executives like what's happening.

[ShinyLeftPad]

And I guess you have statistics about how much victimization happens over e2e?:)

[close04]

The guy’s logic is “if only we had allowed a small backdoor from the start they wouldn’t be forced to install a large backdoor now”. Other technologies that were open to the law were endlessly abused for surveillance.

His theory is bunk, there is absolutely no middle ground to be had with the people who want a backdoor. There are no small backdoors.

[inigyou]

What do you consider a backdoor though? Saying that devices must have parental controls isn't a backdoor. Saying that devices must scan your ID is a backdoor to break anonymity, but is he saying that?

If we had parental controls that actually worked it would forestall any talk about ID scanning because parents could just enable parental controls.

[close04]

Even the article talks about this. The backdoor is when there’s no E2EE - he speaks of the “absolute right to privacy” which the proposed age verification solution wouldn’t breach in any way, so it’s actually the loss of encryption. It’s when a legal and technical framework are put in place to do age verification which can be switched to identity verification in a blink of an eye. It’s when cryptographically attested software is the only way to use the internet which even the author, as a suporter of the upsides, knows what it implies on the downside.

[deathanatos]

Gotta disagree. The encryption part needed to happen: without it, there's just too much opportunity for governments to intercept unencrypted traffic and abscond with it. We saw that occur with Snowden, and with programs like MUSCULAR in particular.

I don't think it's that encryption was harmful, it's that it wasn't enough, and in a sense I agree with TFA & the Sun Tzu bit: it needed to be complemented by legislation that added decent privacy protections, and it largely wasn't. That was a mistake, I suppose, but the current political situation, esp. in the USA, disfavors privacy regulation getting done, ever. The Democrats are … maybe spiritually for it? … but not terrible effectual at getting it done; Obama's response to Snowden was "meh" at best, and Congresspeople, in particular Feinstein especially, let the DNI walk all over her. The GOP has no interest at all in regulating corporations, at all, ever, so with the House/Senate/POTUS all (R) at the moment, it's going to be until at least Nov before it is possible to even think that these might get addressed, and even that's … generous, and I won't be holding my breath for it to occur.

Stuff like what we saw in another thread today — with LG wantonly installing spyware — and things like Flock would have happened in addition to network intercepts; they are not happening instead of. Corporations and the government will do whatever the People permit them to get away with.

[ETH_start]

He's very clearly arguing against absolute privacy on the Internet and is saying that the people who advocated for it, which he besmirches as "tech bros", are responsible for the governments going too far now, instead of a happy compromise having been set out at the beginning, which by the way totally mischaracterizes the history of the Internet, where the governments were trying to impose total surveillance from the very beginning.

[busterarm]

He’s not exactly wrong either. The founders/executives of a tech startup I worked for spun off a completely unrelated E2EE chat app as a separate startup and didn’t market it to anyone.

It’s only used by them and their buddies and basically only for OTR conversations related to their publicly traded company that would have put them in prison. Totally the “let’s defraud these investors and do industrial espionage” type shit. I also know about a good half dozen other VC-funded E2EE chat apps that are also exactly this.

They do it just to get something they control in app stores that’s also a separate entity. Then they don’t have to answer uncomfortable questions about why such and such is on their phone.

This is some of what regulators are seeing and finding a problem with.

[ETH_start]

We can agree to disagree on this. Even on this example you gave, I'm not entirely sure it's harmful to society. Having worked in the corporate world, there are just so many regulations that — from what I've seen — there is pervasive non-compliance and the covering up of the non-compliance. I suspect that if every single corporate regulation was effectively enforced, a significant fraction of economic activity would grind to a halt.

[busterarm]

People often say the same thing about environmental regulation too...

I hope you realize what a poor argument (to lawmakers) that is, especially if your goal is to advocate for privacy.

[ETH_start]

Society needs non-political checks on government power. We cannot always depend on the right laws being passed. One of those non-political checks is privacy rights. We can't give the state total transparency into our private interactions.