[jasonlotito]

What's your opinion based on? Because Derek's is documented over and over again. Most famously in the 7 Habits book. You can blame everyone else for your failures, or you can take responsibility and understand that you have influence.

It doesn't mean you can put everyone on yourself. However, it's the difference between saying you don't have a job because of the government, and you don't have a job because you spent no time improving your situation.

> You have decided that not only are you not a victim but in fact you and you alone are responsible for everything and therefore you don't ever need to forgive anyone.

The reality is, you are misrepresenting what is being said. Maybe it's just ignorance. But the lesson is simple: you can either blame other people on your problems (which will never be productive), or you can work and see what you can do to solve these problems (which will always be productive). If this means forgiving someone for a failure, that's what you do.

That is much different than blaming someone.