[feoren]

> Turns out I have ADHD

You just magically found this out when the Mental Health Diagnosis Fairy visited you one night? You spent thousands of dollars for a neuropsych evaluation where the result was 40% reality, 40% chance, and 20% how the evaluator was feeling that day? You self-diagnosed by reading Reddit threads? You somehow magically found the one psychiatrist who is willing to talk about ADHD without immediately assuming you're just trying to score some Ritalin to sell on the street? You got diagnosed by Dr. ChatGPT? What the actual fuck are you talking about? Everybody has ADHD, nobody has ADHD, who fucking knows? It's not possible that you actually know this.

I'm 100% convinced everyone who is like "get help, talk to an expert" has never actually fucking tried, because it's not possible.

[astrange]

Well, you see, all things are empty of independent origination.

(You "have ADHD" if a psychiatrist was willing to say you have it, gave you medication, and it improved your life quality both at work and at home.)

[m1aw]

I'm going to take your comment in good faith and assume you are just frustrated with the system.

I don't live in the US, my experience comes from the Netherlands.

I was having hard time dealling with the Covid period, and was having lots of anxiety regarding my work and proeutivy so I reached out to my GP. Talked and had sessions with 2 different psycologists over a year, both suggested to ask a referral to an ADHD specific clinic.

Since I did not want medication I never followed through. Fast forward a few years I reached out to a GP because I was thinking the ADHD "assesment" was correct. Followed up with another GP, they were super kind took my ADHD concerns seriously specially since I wanted to avoid medication first. Got referred to a psicology practice that followed me for 8 weeks, after they they also gave insurance a note that it was possible ADHD and followed me up with a different referal to a different clinic more specialized again.

So no I don't have an ADHD "certificate" to hang on the wall, but I have talked with enough professionals that think that might be the case.

[tiredgrumptries]

I empathize with your frustration; It can certainly be difficult to find adequate support, especially if you’re in the US as I am. That said, the interventions that exist can be effective and I genuinely hope you’re able to gain access to a support system that can help you

[fapjacks]

No, I actually like this reply, because it's true in its essentials. You can find someone to tell you what you want to hear, but it's not going to pay the rent. And actual help needs to come from within, and no one has a magic wand or a one-weird-trick to actually help you. In the meantime, you have to pay the rent. Work sucks to varying degrees, and we all need coping mechanisms. Waving a flag with some acronym is not, at the end of the day, going to pay the rent. Find coping mechanisms.

[fragmede]

"some acronym" gets you access to medication which helps with the doing of the work which gets you money so you can pay rent tho

[bluefirebrand]

> And actual help needs to come from within, and no one has a magic wand or a one-weird-trick to actually help you

What if your problem is "your body does not manufacture neurotransmitters in the correct ratios"

> Find coping mechanisms

What if the coping mechanism is doctor prescribed medications?

There's a bunch of arguments in this thread that sound a lot like "you don't need cochlear implants to hear if you're deaf, just listen harder" to me