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by janderson215 15 days ago
What I said is not equivalent to either of those. I wouldn’t say anybody “had this coming” because that is pretty callous. But I would say my sympathy is not endless and is reserved for those who are not victims of their own footguns.
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InsideOutSanta 15 days ago
> my sympathy is not endless

It actually is, unless you don't want it to be.

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janderson215 15 days ago
This is ridiculous. I am not endless myself, so how could my sympathy be? This thread is full of either trolls or unserious people.
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InsideOutSanta 15 days ago
> I am not endless myself, so how could my sympathy be

Because you're not confronted with an endless number of situations where you need to be sympathetic. It's pretty easy to just decide to consistently be sympathetic. There is no sympathy meter inside you that prevents you from doing that.

> This thread is full of either trolls or unserious people

Well, I know I'm not the former, and I believe I'm not the latter. So if your experience is that you encounter lots of people who disagree with your position, and your reaction is to label them all as trolls or unserious, I would put it to you that you might just be wrong on all three counts.

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janderson215 14 days ago
This is turning into a pedantic argument. I’m fine entertaining the nuance of language if your mind is open as well and you aren’t just trying to discuss me to death.

I specifically mentioned __this thread__. I generally have an open ear to other perspectives, but just like my sympathy, my patience is limited (particularly in narrow contexts). You may be a genuine soul, but you are mistaken if you think sympathy or empathy don’t take energy. Surely you don’t think it is possible for humans to have endless energy. Let’s not throw good energy after bad. If we spend our energy on things that don’t benefit others, we are not spending it on somethings that matters.

Maybe we just have 2 different philosophies of life and you are more likely to walk in a labyrinth these days than I am. Once upon a time, I would’ve been beside you, but life has led me to make different decisions.

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