I'm not asking for evidence, just vibes. I like to think I'd have the perspective to be grateful, but I also know it's just as likely I'd be searching for something to blame other than just the statistics.
I think what I mean is just that from an individual standpoint we can’t really answer that and it’s not how vaccine evidence is collected or decisions are made. Those are always made at the population level. (Vaccine harms 1 in every 100, disease 10/100, ergo better to get the vaccine). But this says very little or nothing even about that 1/100 that was harmed. They definitely might have been better off not getting it.