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How to ask for help is an under-discussed important topic.

Women are way better at asking for help and getting it as compared to men.

there's some very well-known psychology tricks that you can use to get better outcomes. Cialdini's book and Munger's speech on psychological bias are first class.

you want to be opportunistic but not too attached to your ask.

ask for a lot and then back off works tremendously better even with kids

perception (looks, reputation, stereotypes) have an outsized impact on outcomes. look at any successful sales department for proof of this. perception can be faked unfortunately.

put hard limits (of time) on your ask. make it clear that its a one time ask.

The most counterintuitive aspect (covered in the article) is that you'll get a yes more often if it's easy for them to say no.