basic etiquette and presentation (the linked article) is mind blowing enough to reach the top forum ranking, precisely because of behaviour like that which you describe. as the dog whisperer taught me, dominance and fear are seperate concepts - it is possible to set boundaries without being a dick. personally I love being a dick but moderation is key. snarky behaviour shifts responsibility to avoid directly addressing the issue oneself. thats not how an adult behaves in my book.