[travisgriggs]

In family and friend relationships, this all resonates completely.

Where I struggle and find my ego self defensively screaming “But…!” is in work relationships. Product managers, where their wrongness makes my downstream life more miserable. Basically any relationship where I have a (self perceived) need for the outcome to be a certain way to protect/enhance my well being. Asymmetric relationships.

[al_borland]

I’ve had friends refer to me as a “yes-man”, because I don’t really care where a group of people decide to go to dinner. It’s of little consequence and doesn’t create any negative downstream effects.

At work, when a poor decision means unnecessary work today, and ongoing maintenance for the next 5-10 years, I will oppose these things quite loudly and tell people they are wrong. I don’t see why I’d sign up for 10 years of thankless work I don’t understand without a fight.