[hypfer]

Abusive controlling partners rarely are long-term timeframe rational, because being long-term timeframe rational is at odds with being an abusive controlling partner.

Things do not need to make sense. They often do not. They just appear just enough like they would so that it flies under the radar.

It's all just conway's law. It had to be like this. It cannot be any other way.

[dragonwriter]

> Abusive controlling partners rarely are long-term timeframe rational, because being long-term timeframe rational is at odds with being an abusive controlling partner.

Humans are rarely “long-term timeframe rational” (rational choice theory is very much a known-false model of human behavior on both the individual and aggregate level), but there is nothing about abusively exploiting an initially trusting and eventually dependent telationship that it is inconsistent with long-term rationality.

[hypfer]

I can't really parse this comment, but I also have a feeling that nothing is lost in struggling with that.