[atoav]

The two things you have commented on are not equivalent.

One person offers insight and the other reacts. Such a reaction is inherently on a different plane than a original statement, because you chose to make it about yourself, in the presence of another persons slice of their reality.

To give a crass example:

  A: I had a shitty day, they took my dog and killed it  
  
  B: Well, *my* dog is still alive  
  

To which I would say: Congrats on telegraphing to the world you are a self-centered asshole that wouldn't recognize the concept of empathy if it jumped into their face.