[lelanthran]

> So I suggest to keep unasked parental advices or expectations how other kids should behave to yourself.

Forget it. Not gonna happen, on a story about kid's development, in a thread about lack of impulse control.

Sure, there could be physiological reasons for a given child to have a lack of impulse control, but in practice most of a child's characteristics are going to be from the environment.

[slowhorse]

If we agree that a child is a product of their environment, we have to extend that same grace to the parents (and parents’ parents ad infinitum). They are also products of their environments, genetics, and upbringings. Turtles all the way down. It’s unrealistic to expect parents who were given different tools, different neurobiology, and different levels of support to all produce children with identical levels of impulse control. The playing field isn't level.

It’s hard to parse the tone in comments like this, and I’m sorry if am off the mark here, but a little more compassion and consideration makes life and everyone better.