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A lot of high-performing nerds are by nature competitive, and really dial the "I'm always correct until proven wrong, and even then I might correct" personality trait up to 11.

Some guys, like Gates, seemed to have extremely opinionated views on what Microsoft products should have been like. That should be a given, as he was the co-founder and CEO, but when you see older footage of him, he has (had?) this "This doesn't make sense to me, so it is shit" way of seeing things. He also seemed to have a typical brutally honest way of reviewing stuff, which can make one come off as very abrasive.

Can't remember where I read it, but there was this psychology paper that studied elite performers, those that were considered to be at the very top of their game (sports, business, art, culinary, etc.) - and toxic/abrasive leadership is just more accepted, because the top performers strive for perfection, no mater the cost. Their subordinates and co-workers just consider it "tough love", instead of abusive behavior.