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by Daishiman 6 days ago
> You don't need to have life all figured out before you have kids.

Sure, you just need to do away with international trips, going out, losing your group of friends, losing your chances for higher education and career progression and all of the associated prestige.
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Spooky23 6 days ago
The only thing you lose there are the trips. If anything your social life can blossom.

My wife was a city treasurer and had a masters. I was a .gov and later a tech executive.

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tasuki 6 days ago
> If anything your social life can blossom.

Yes, if you value spending time with parents of same-aged children. My social life is still fine, but the people I spend my time with are competely different. Not better, nor worse, just entirely different.

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bombcar 5 days ago
That's not true! Sometimes you get to spend time with grandparents of same-aged children!
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matchbok3 6 days ago
It is hard to explain to 20 year olds that bragging about their trip to Europe means nothing when you are 45.
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abc123abc123 5 days ago
How strange. My experiences when I was young mean way more to me, than say, a trip to the US now. Now it's just boring routine, back then, everything was new and fresh.

You must have had a very boring time when you were young. It is very sad.

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matchbok3 5 days ago
Not sure what you are referring to. My point was that "traveling" is meaningless when you have a family.

The personal attack is immature. Grow up champ, you'll be happier!

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