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Calling a female judge something other than Mr. is not supposed to be some push for progress - it's been common decency for many decades to not default to such positions being male and it should not have been such an affront to hear note they were not a Mr. Apologies if a note about who they are was offensive to you in some way. The intent was to note the nudge is not a man, not to insult you.

Thinking something was supposed to sound funny is not an excuse to act like this, it's perfectly alright to just say "oops, didn't cross my mind", or even nothing at all as not every note of info needs acknowledgement. Digging in about it is just odd for something that didn't need a defense in the first place, unless it's really that important of you announce you intend to avoid acknowledging such things.

I also believe anyone reading, if at all, is quite welcome to come to their own varied conclusions rather than need to be instructed on what they are supposed to have thought by you.