[thaumasiotes]

> Focus on (positive) emotions. Give kids incentives.

I taught at an English-immersion high school in Shanghai.

It's worth remarking that the boy at the top of the class in each grade was dating the girl at the top of the class.

[BeetleB]

Are you suggesting that in that culture boys/girls did not value the other party unless they were academically similar...?

I can believe it, but I don't know if it's true. Obviously not true in the US.

[thaumasiotes]

I'm suggesting that in Chinese culture, academic success is an effective way to impress girls.

[BeetleB]

Or ... for them to impress guys?

[thaumasiotes]

No, I'm going to stand by the phrasing I provided.