[uberman]

I can't really say other than I can say that I am not close with my sister and never have been. I am similarly not close with my own parents who now live in a different country though we are close with my wife's parents. So when I say "immediate family", what I mean personally is my wife and daughters. What would it have been like to have the closeness with my own parents that I have with my daughters? I'm not sure other than reflecting back on those days that it would have seemed weird to me. Perhaps that is a missed opportunity.

Even with my family though I have to actively work to listen first for empathy and problem solve only when asked :-)