[simpaticoder]

The great benefit is, initially, to know that you're not alone. And indeed, the OP is very much not alone. The suffering is much greater when you think it's just you going through it; when you connect with others in the same boat, real solutions present themselves be they political or technical and together you have the strength to face it.

[bjord]

well, sure, and I support that...I was purely trying to address the realisticness(?) of the request that it not happen anymore. possibly the wrong forum, my bad.