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by anal_reactor 18 days ago
Yes, I do have a hard time with in-person socialization, but that only reinforces the point that at least from my perspective, people suck.

Imagine that you move to a foreign country. At work you get to know Bob and Bob tells you that he likes traveling. Next week you ask Bob if he's going on holiday somewhere, and the week after you get a call from HR because asking people for their holiday plans is considered extremely rude and this is the final warning before they fire you. Okay. You try to ask around if someone is interested in sports or anything, and turns out, watching paint dry is people's favorite social activity. People gather, and just stare at the wall. They eat some snack that smells like shit and discuss how fast different types of paint dry under different conditions - apparently there is huge disagreement whether blue or pink paint dries faster to the point that they organize official paint drying tournaments. One day you meet Alice. You're doing your best to be nice and make a friend. You suggest grabbing a coffee together. She replies "yes, definitely, what about Wednesday 3AM in front of the homeless shelter?". You can't tell if she's for real or just fucking with you, so you do show up there. Strangely, so does she, but she comes at 4AM. Turns out, it was faux-pass on your side to show up on time, which is why there won't be a second date.

Whenever you try to vent how you don't fit into the culture people point out that it's your fault you're the weirdo. Also, the incident with Bob will follow you for the next five years.

1 comments

That sounds legitimately hard and I don’t envy you. Hopefully (to carry your analogy) you can find punctual sports fans who freely share their holiday plans.

> Whenever you try to vent how you don't fit into the culture people point out that it's your fault you're the weirdo.

Surely it’s pretty self evident why this is the case.