[latexr]

People will want to be around you if you’re kind and generally pleasant, which is a much stronger reason to hang out with someone and leads to much longer lasting and healthier bonds than a physical trait. It also costs nothing and once you can get into that mindset, takes no effort.

[throwfish3000]

I've always been nice and pleasant, but from my analysis, people thought that was weakness. Weak + Nice = Uncool, Strong + Nice = Cool.

[latexr]

It saddens me that has been your experience. I’d argue people who see kindness as a weakness are not people one would want to be around.