[Forgeties79]

I’m sorry but nobody behaves this way. Nobody sits around in every conversation showing their homework/proving they tried to find an answer before asking somebody else. It is incredibly common to just ask somebody a question and expect an answer regardless if you could’ve looked up yourself.

It’s important to not make everybody do your research for you, but what you’re describing is not at all typical.

[strken]

I'm not particularly sorry, but when I ask questions out of the blue over email or chat, I always explain what I've already tried. The two exceptions are when it's urgent, in which case I briefly explain the urgency ("prod is down did you deploy just now?"), or when it's part of an ongoing conversation.

If this is not typical for you, then you are surrounded by people who disrespect you and your time.

[Forgeties79]

> I'm not particularly sorry

Yes that seems rather consistent with your attitude.

As for the rest, you are drastically narrowing the scope

[j_w]

It's not typical but it's how you should personally act.

You aren't going to be able to convince others to be upstanding coworkers that actually give a damn, but you can be that person yourself.