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by mrvmochi 27 days ago
What would you do if your child suffered brain damage from an illness or injury and lost the ability to regulate their emotions? And what if the severity of that impairment was right on the borderline—just enough to be penalized by society, but not enough to qualify for any support?

I used to be an instructor at a karate dojo, and several parents brought their kids to me, asking me to "do something" about their violent behavior. One of the children had been diagnosed with autism, but the rest hadn't even been evaluated by a doctor. The parents likely expected me to discipline them through fear and (possibly) corporal punishment, but I chose to instruct them relying solely on words until the very end.

However, it was futile. When I taught them that they must not hurt others or lash out, they would reply, "I understand." But the reality was that they had merely learned to say "I understand" whenever spoken to by an intimidating opponent they knew they couldn't beat.

Ultimately, every single case ended in disappointment. Consumed by a profound sense of powerlessness with the last child, I gave up teaching kids altogether.

You and your children are simply fortunate to possess the cognitive capacity to understand that making deepfakes is wrong.

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> What would you do if your child suffered brain damage from an illness or injury and lost the ability to regulate their emotions? And what if the severity of that impairment was right on the borderline—just enough to be penalized by society, but not enough to qualify for any support?

I would approve of depriving them of the opportunity to hurt others, but keep loving them and supporting them for as long as I live.

The alternative would be covering for them while other kids suffer the consequences. I love my kids over everything else, but I would fail them and hopefully they would feel the same way if I put their enjoyment/freedoms over other peoples suffering. I wish society veered more towards balancing with responsibility and not simply maximizing individual freedoms. We need both.

> You and your children are simply fortunate to possess the cognitive capacity to understand that making deepfakes is wrong.

Possibly, maybe probably, but I've only met one kid like that yet, and his parents who I've interacted with many times definitely inflicted that behavior. But I can't know what I don't know, so I'll defer to your experience.