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by Guestmodinfo 33 days ago
My honest answer is pray for them twice a day and do call them everyday just to tell them you are there for them and in you they will have a constant friend, and supporter. Because young people go through a lot of sadness too when they are all alone in the world. I personally converse to my parents like I am / or they are writing a diary. It has worked well. We haven't lost touch and we pick up right away when we meet. But physical loss is really hurting. Prayer will definitely mellow down the mourning and will give positivity to the whole situation.
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>do call them everyday just to tell them you are there for them

You need to also respect their space. They are becoming their own person and don't necessarily want to hear from their parents every day. Be available if they want to call, but not pushy if they don't.

Yeah no kidding. When I moved out I would have lost my mind if my parents had called me every day. I would have been screening their calls like crazy

I love my parents and I call them fairly often, but holy crap. Every day would be way too much

> Because young people go through a lot of sadness too when they are all alone in the world.

They aren't alone in the world. They are building and living their own lives with their own friends and eventually creating their own family.

> in you they will have a constant friend

Parents need to be parents, not friends.

I'm 45, and my parents have been 2 of my best friends for about 15 years now. Probably not a coincidence that this corresponds to when I started having my own kids. I call and check in several times per week, even if it is just "hey, what did you guys have for dinner?". I hope my own kids, the oldest of whom is a year away from college, eventually feel like they can and want to do this too.