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by jopolous 37 days ago
I work at Meta (for now…)

I really care about VR and had the opportunity to work at Reality Labs. They paid to relocate my family to the Bay Area, where I was able to get better medical care for an autoimmune disease. I interviewed at other companies too but it was late 2022 and hiring freezes eliminated my other opportunities.

So my motivations were: - Working on something I care about - Getting to the Bay Area and eventually being able to move to a better/more moral company

My aspirations: - Leave Meta ASAP for somewhere less icky

I truly, honestly believed I wouldn’t survive at the company for very long, and would be laid off. Surprisingly I got great performance reviews year after year. The stock went up substantially and it got really difficult to quit. I then had a kid, struggled to adapt to the new demands, and had no extra bandwidth to interview anywhere else. Golden handcuffs, but not in the way I expected.

My moral justification for this continues to be that Meta is such a bloated, slow, and political company that there’s almost no chance that my work has any meaningful effect whatsoever on the company’s overall success or survival.

I also donate 5-6 figures to meaningful charities, particularly the Afghanistan refugee relocation efforts. Ideally our government would just fund those efforts directly but it’s nice to be able to control a very small part of the distribution of wealth

I am interviewing at other companies now, like basically all of my coworkers

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Thanks for the honest assessment. I'm certain it took guts to open up about this, especially to the hostile crowd on HN. This comment is a good counter to the no-nuance "Everyone who works at Company X are terrible people!" narratives. Also, it brings up a point that often gets overlooked: These companies are absolutely enormous, and there are very likely small pockets within each of them with people who are at least trying to do good and stay out of the evil lanes. Not everyone working in BigTech is actively churning through Torment Nexus JIRA tickets, and at the very least, if you're working at one of these places, finding a team that is not actively harming the world is a good compromise.
I used to work at a company that had a client that was... let's call them morally dubious, because if I start typing out what I really think of them, there'll just be a paragraph of profanity that dang will probably remove.

Anyway, since we billed hourly, I ended up keeping track of all of the money I made while working on that client's work, and donated all of it to St. Jude's hospital.

But I still feel really fucking gross about it, and I don't think that will ever go away.

Rather than donating 5-6 figures, what about saving enough cash to live on? Roughly speaking you can "make" ~$200k/year on $5M in T-bills. You could live comfortably in the US or Europe, or basically like a king anywhere else in the world. You could work on the software you want, even pro-bono, and walk away any time. I believe this is called "F U money".
My initial offer was $400k total comp (E5), so I didn’t really consider FIRE as an option in the near term considering my spouse is a full-time parent and this area is HCOL.

I’m nowhere close to $5m, and I’m hoping to leave Meta in the next few months. But I’d love to be able to “retire” and work exclusively for companies that match my morals.

I figured the amount I’m donating doesn’t make a huge difference to my FIRE date

That 200k is a reasonable amount to start withdrawing from a 5M portfolio (exactly the 4% rule from the Trinity study [1]), but you’ll want to adjust it for inflation every year. My favorite tool for planning these strategies is TPAW Planner [2], which visualizes the distribution of withdrawals under various market outcomes. It’ll also suggest a portfolio of stocks and bonds that’ll be safer than just T-bills, which have a high risk of not beating inflation.

1: https://www.bogleheads.org/wiki/Safe_withdrawal_rates

2: https://tpawplanner.com/

see TIPS (inflation adjusted t-bills)
If everyone who works at META is a bit like this, then it will be an overflow of good when y'all find your new place. Thank you for doing your part. Gratefulness
Donating to charities or NGOs might be more harmful than anything you've ever done.
If you ever actually see the work or something charities on the ground and the people they help you might change your mind very quickly. They certainly do more good than another million in some index fund.
Depends on where and what work they are doing.
Fly-by snark is an interesting choice.

What were you hoping to achieve with this comment other than making a person who is being vulnerable to anonymous internet denizens feel worse?

Just another perspective, no snark intended. I don’t see how helping “refugees” is some objective good.
Guess your country was never invaded by a genocidal expansionist neighbour or been taken over by a militant theocracy/dictatorship.

Hope for your sake that it doesn’t happen. In the meantime, I’ll keep supporting Ukrainians.

I don’t consider it harmful.

No that’s never happened to India you’re right. If you “support” relocation of a Ukrainian like Iryna Zarutska they might end up moving to Charlotte, NC where they get stabbed on a train. Road to hell paved with good intentions and all that.
No, but the UK did support the relocation of my great-grandfather who fought alongside the British against the Soviets and Nazi's leaving him no home to return to once the war was over.

He dedicated his life to the defence of his home, then to Britain and then spent 37 years in the coal-mines powering the country. All the while being a refugee.

I totally understand your worry about globalism, and to be clear: very human feelings about demographic shifts and change are being stoked by both sides of an ever polarising political spectrum.

But, I think it's important to remember that the reason refugee protections even exist as a concept is because there are real people who suffer, and we offer protection to those who need it not because we think ourselves superior: but because we hope that if the day were ever to come for us: that other nations would help us live our life so we could return home.

Unfortunately for my great-grandfather, even though he settled in the UK; he would have returned, but his part of Poland had become part of Ukraine, and Ukraine was the Soviet Union: the entity he went to war against.

I guess you were among the ones applauding when Elon put USAID "into the woodchipper"?
Not really. Just mortified at how incapable the people we have been supposedly helping for decades are after just a short stop in funding.