[dingaling]

> Then you just pick who you vibe with

This is the problem, though. So many hobby clubs and societies have pre-existing cliques, you don't get to pick - you get selected if they deign, or excluded if not.

I've felt lonelier in many societies than on my own, if that makes sense.

[pavel_lishin]

True, but if they always have an influx of new people, you can form your friendships with them.

You can also start your own club - my local friends, I've made through starting a D&D group and running a campaign with them.