[SunlightEdge]

I've gotten into my 40s and honestly I've dropped about 25% of my friends - as they are also in their 40s but drink a lot and worse do cocaine. They also are really into making fun of each other. Maybe I'm an old bore, but none of that appeals. I haven't burnt my bridges but I much prefer to spend time with people that are healthy, into reading, are positive. I just can't be bothered... Still I may change my mind in time - but I am aiming for a long stint of not seeing the boys. I am married now and with my first kid (10 weeks old) and that has definitely made me time poor. But I only now text the friends that actually matter to me now.

[loeg]

I find it's pretty easy to make new friends with other people doing healthy activities (I'm not in my 40s but many of the people I meet doing sports are).

[coldtea]

>as they are also in their 40s but drink a lot and worse do cocaine. They also are really into making fun of each other.

Can I get your friends?

[whatever120]

His “friends” sound awful. Why would you want them?

[red-iron-pine]

don't yuck his yum

[ElevenLathe]

Better awful friends that no friends at all IMO.

[breakpointalpha]

No, it's infinitely worse for your life to be surrounded by bad decision makers.

[ElevenLathe]

It's a preference. I have been in both situations, and prefer to "love the ones I'm with".

[exolymph]

Partying is fun!

[arolihas]

they sound like a fun time

[karmakurtisaani]

He might also be awful, no shame in that (a little shame in that tho).