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by sokka_h2otribe 47 days ago
Certainly an OK book to read.

The trouble with this book for me was that it often recommends deferring to the other persons sense of self over your own.

There are times this is right, and there are times where it is very shallow. In fact, it can even be very inauthentic & fail to develop your own internal tools.

I think if it helps you start something, great! But for me personally at the youthful age I read the book - it was negative. Today I'm sure I could read it and only take the positive. Mostly it depends on whether you think you "must" behave in those ways, or if you "could, sometimes, by choice"