[alecco]

> One of the things I like about this is that OP is giving people genuine compliments without any particular agenda.

IMHO that is as fake as a car salesman. Mature, cultured people will say thank you and think "what a nuisance". I prefer being open about my motives. Smart people appreciate truth over compliments. And if the dumb/immature get offended, good riddance.

I used to be a big fan of HtWFaIP, but eventually I realized it's not healthy.

[brailsafe]

> Mature, cultured people will say thank you and think "what a nuisance".

It seems like the word you're looking for is "conceited", and it's a great candidate for traits one should attempt to extinguish in themselves.

If your true motives aren't kind and aren't requested, then those are great candidates to be kept inside, especially during random interactions in third-spaces

[ignoramous]

> Mature, cultured people will say thank you and think "what a nuisance"

  The world is a mirror, forever reflecting what you are doing within yourself.

[alecco]

I hope you enjoyed the hormonal reward you got when you copy-pasted that amazingly deep proverb.

Let's expand on it a bit. Is the world a mirror to street salespeople? Is the world a mirror to stalkers? To sociopaths?

[ignoramous]

> amazingly deep proverb

You misunderstand. You can't claim to speak for all "mature" & "cultured" people. That is, who gets to judge those who don't conform to one specific observed / inferred worldview, aren't "cultured" or "mature" enough? (if it wasn't clear, this question isn't an invitation to debate).

> Let's expand on it a bit. Is the world a mirror to street salespeople? Is the world a mirror to stalkers? To sociopaths?

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Loaded_question

[alecco]

Yes, they are loaded, that's the point. It's a rhetorical method to (hopefully) make people consider that point of view.

[rafabulsing]

That's an interesting take. Care to say more about HtWFaIP being unhealthy?

[flawn]

I would assume, because the title and parts of the book suggest reducing human connections to utility and personal gain.

[fortyseven]

Well you're fun at parties, I bet.