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by alwaysdoit 38 days ago
I wish the protocol was to introduce your name about 5-15 minutes into the conversation because then I would have some other information to attach it to. When it's the first piece of information I receive I think my brain just doesn't really know where to put it and it gets lost immediately. The "use their name several times in the first conversation" trick is a good workaround for this.
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gowld 38 days ago
> I wish the protocol was to introduce your name about 5-15 minutes into the conversation because then I would have some other information to attach it to.

This is exactly what suave people do to get to know strangers outside of professional context. It's a common TV/movie trope. Asking a stranger's name puts them on the defensive.

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wallst07 36 days ago
What I do now with people I meet the first time, is finish with some sort of:

"I'm sorry what was your name again, I'm xxxx"

I find that 99% of the time, the person I talk to has the exact same issue of remembering names, it's not ADHD for the most part, its common.

So this line gives us both an opportunity to remember names, and I take the pressure out of them to remember mine.

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