I might have too French of an attitude towards parenting for American taste, but as long as the crying and screaming isn’t based on anything real (and as long as you’ve childproofed the children’s room well enough it shouldn’t be) the child will be fine and what y’all need is sufficient distance between the bedrooms, some nice, solid brick walls in between the the rooms and some earplugs.
What is real? Is poop in the diaper real enough to cry for? Is fever real enough? How do you know whether the kid is not having a fever seizure or crying because of poop in diaper without going in there? How about night terrors where the kid is throwing themselves against their crib?
The fever seizure happened to a friend’s kid. Ambulance showing up, etc. Seizures can cause permanent damage. This kid wasn’t premature and he has no other obvious differences than our kids. Am I supposed to believe/pray it can’t happen to me and just sleep?
I like sleep, but I don’t like it that much. What’s the point of having a kid if I am supposed to ignore their needs? Make sure they pay into social security so I can retire or smtg?