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by HardwareLust 46 days ago
If your "friends" left you because you told them you were a furry, then they were never your friends to begin with.

Now that you've shed that baggage, go find some real friends.

2 comments

Does it really make people "not your friends to begin with" if they react badly to learning something new about you?

I am not saying this is the same situation at all, but it would not make someone "not your friend to begin with" if you were good friends for a while but then they started serial killing. Even if being a furry is no big deal at all, people do stupid things—that doesn't erase what came before.

I certainly don't think you should leave your friends over them being a furry, but friends are complicated. You can have a meaningful friendship with someone who turns out to have serious flaws. I wouldn't want to invalidate a past friendship.

True; sometimes good people don't know how to handle shocking (unconventional) news.
Thank you i guess ill go fix things with her and the others
Maybe start with an apology: hey, I'm sorry if I shocked you with that, I know it's not conventional, and the last thing I want to do is make my friends feel uncomfortable. I know that some people can think it's weird because there are some weird people that do weird things in fursuits, but I just wanted to let you know that's not me. It's just a character I like to cosplay as, kind of like how people dress up at anime conventions

Just an example, I don't have all the details or know you or anything. Edit it or write your own, or take a completely different approach. I'm not an expert at these kinds of things.

If you've tried reaching out already in the past couple of days and they were ghosting you: maybe have a day-long cool down period (not texting them), then say, "I value our friendship, so I asked some (non-fury) people for advice, and I want to apologize...
Yeah i think i will