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by rationalist 52 days ago
How long have they been your friends, and how strong of a friendship was it prior to that?

Is there a reason you needed to tell others of your sexual preference? Is it intertwined with being a furry?

People can get uncomfortable and not know how to handle unexpected news. Perhaps next time when feeling like sharing something out of the ordinary with someone, maybe treat it nonchalantly, like - you: I'll be there after I drop my suit off at the cleaners (maybe they might ask what the suit is for, then say meeting up with some people, or cosplay and explain you know how people wear costumes to conventions like characters from movies or characters that they invent on their own, I invented a character that I feel describes me, (then see if they ask about it, or wait for a different opportunity))

Edit: I assumed a suit, but I suppose one can just have drawings of their fursona? I imagine fursuits are expensive and perhaps not everyone has one. Or maybe some people just have partial pieces like a tail, mask, or ear headband? I'm not that familiar with the fury culture.

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> Is it intertwined with being a furry?

Notice that they didn't answer that, so you can safely assume the answer is yes and it's 100% understandable why their friends no longer want to associate with them.

I'm not reading into that. Not everyone replies thoroughly, logically, and/or sequentially.

FYI, they did say in another comment that they do not use it as a sexual fetish for what it's worth.

Also for the second question i just felt safe you know i didnt really care about how anyone reacts to my sexuality
I just felt safe talking her and the other 3 you know.
We had been friends for nearly 7 years
It was also a pretty strong relationship. we had gone places together and made things together. and i almost asked her out once.
And the others well i had only know them for 4 years