[svnt]

Respect for developmental diversity does more to isolate people?

Because it seems like you and several other people are projecting a lot of “trauma is my identity” ideas on me that aren’t in what I wrote.

What I wrote is that telling people “get good, I did” is really unhelpful. Put more work and thought into how you try to connect with people whose experience is very different from yours.

[asdfman123]

Why do you assume my experience is so different? There are tons of people on forums like these who've dealt with extreme shyness and severe problems, yet managed to persevere. Your struggles might not be nearly as unique as you think.

[svnt]

I am assuming this because you are projecting all over me and not distinguishing between me and the people I was making the point about. I was pretty clear in my comment that I do not struggle with shyness. Some people experience debilitating levels of shyness, and some people have done the work necessary to understand the perspective of those people, but in my experience they do not communicate like you do.

[asdfman123]

I have no idea what you're trying to say.

[svnt]

>> Why do you assume my experience is so different? There are tons of people on forums like these who've dealt with extreme shyness and severe problems, yet managed to persevere.

> I am assuming this because you are projecting all over me

Projecting means you are making assumptions rooted in your own experience about what I think and how I feel which are not accurate.

>> Your struggles might not be nearly as unique as you think.

> and not distinguishing between me and the people I was making the point about. I was pretty clear in my comment that I do not struggle with shyness.

This means you are conflating me with the people I work with who struggle with this — ie you did not take the time to understand my comment chain before replying.

> Some people experience debilitating levels of shyness, and some people have done the work necessary to understand the perspective of those people, but in my experience they do not communicate like you do.

This means you appear to be functionally illiterate in the language of subjective experience and are just insisting that other people experience the world the way you do. This is understandable as a default because for many it is a familiar, easier, model of reality to work with. People exist who have the same fluency in this area that you have in your primary area of expertise. Think about the gap in understanding between someone who knows nothing about your area of expertise and you. Think about how they sound trying to explain to you how to solve a problem in your work.

[asdfman123]

No, I know what all that means. I don't know what your perspective is, beyond your defenses.