[bluefirebrand]

The part you're missing is that the people who hit those bullet points probably weren't always that way. In my experience they usually had very bad social experiences that drove them to isolate.

That isn't necessarily an excuse. I strongly believe that after a certain point it's really on you to get over your hangups, especially if you're an adult. It may not be easy but it's necessary

Anyways, I've never found that just telling lonely people "it is your fault you're alone" has ever been helpful

[anal_reactor]

I honestly think that most people suck and are not worth talking to. Sure, spending time with those who don't is extremely rewarding, but the rest is just a waste of oxygen.

[bluefirebrand]

Even if this were true, you still have to talk to a lot of people even if only to sift through the sucky ones to find the gems

So if you have any interest in finding the good people who you think are worthwhile, you still have a pretty good incentive to talk to people. And if the good, worthwhile people are that rare then you need to talk to and get to know as many people as you can