[tasuki]

> The more involved a father is with their baby's care, the deeper this transition becomes

My partner died when my child was a year and a half, so I'm more involved than basically any father, to the point that my experience is much closer to a mother's, a role in which my only solace is seeing myself struggle slightly less than many mothers.

It's reassuring to read an article confirming I'm screwed.

[JKCalhoun]

And yet…

Even (especially) in hindsight it will have been the greatest thing you did with your life. At least this has become clear to me (now 27 years a father).

[silexia]

I have done a lot on life... Bootstrapped a mid eight figures business debt free, climbed Mt Rainier, tons of friends, etc.

Nothing in life remotely matters to me as much as my kids. I would trade everything above for any one of my kids.

[tasuki]

For sure the hardest! Kid is five now and life is ok again...