[rybosome]

What exactly are you proposing that kids need other than nurturing?

[gosub100]

I didn't read the article but I'll stand in for the person you replied to and make my best guess at what he meant:

I think he's saying that a manly man might not be soft and cuddly with a small child like a traditional mother would. But that is not necessarily detrimental. For instance, a guy might not want to coo and caw, or change the pitch of his voice, or giggle, things that some men find weak. But (perhaps - I don't know anything about children) the child may still respond positively to a male who used his normal voice and interacted with them however he naturally felt.

[budududuroiu]

Structure

[ra_men]

In a newborn? Infant? I think not. Nurturing is vital in the early stages of life.

[nickpeterson]

Structure in this context is probably ‘routine’, though how that plays into a male vs female role is anyone’s guess.

[watwut]

In what alternative world stereotypically traditional men provide routine to kids.

[watwut]

Moms provide structure in "stereotypical" families. Not dads. Moms force bed time, vegetables, homework, cleaning the room.

But also not to infants.

[budududuroiu]

Ok, moms provide structure. Not sure why you need to highlight that. Important thing is that kids receive structure early in their lives.

[brigandish]

The dilemma was nurturing by a hormonally-adapted male v. a “stereotypical” male, not nurturing v. non-nurturing.